May manMap Challenge handy hints

12 May

Hi ladies,

I’ve been pondering my Monday post and thought it might be handy to share some hints about approaching guys. Believe me, when I’m not armed with a pile of surveys, I find it very intimidating. No one likes to expose themselves to rejection. Here are my guidelines for when I’m out surveying:

  1. Never approach a guy who’s with just one girl – the likelihood of disappointment is high.
  2. Unless you’re feeling really confident, don’t approach a group of more than four guys. Two is ideal. If you’re in a pub, talk to the guy standing next to you at the bar.
  3. Don’t approach guys who’ve had one too many shandies (unless you have too!).
  4.  If you see a guy who is really, really, ridiculously good-looking and his Zoolander-esque features are only going to make you panic, find a few other non-intimidating guys to talk to first.  

If you’re worried about what you’re going to say after you say hi, try this:

I’m taking part in the May manMap Challenge and was wondering if I could chat to you for a minute.

No doubt the guy will ask you what the May manMap challenge is, which will have at least two brilliant benefits:

  1. He’ll know you’re single.
  2. You’ll help spread the word about manMap (much appreciated!!).

The most important thing to remember is if the guy you’ve approached doesn’t respond or is rude, you can simply walk away. His behaviour reflects on him alone and you’ll probably never see him again anyway. You’ve got nothing to lose. Good luck!


4 Responses to “May manMap Challenge handy hints”

  1. ceade May 12, 2010 at 10:01 pm #

    Hi Lucie,

    My ManMap is going really well. I enjoy reading your hints and tips – brings a smile. Look forward to more.

  2. beachblogger May 13, 2010 at 3:06 pm #

    Good advice Lucie, but do we have to only meet men in bars? I’m automatically suspicious of guys who only hang round drinking holes. (Once got stuck in a relationship with an alchoholic … most yawnsome experience I can tell you)

    What about supermarkets? The street?

    I’m finding wandering the beach with a camera is a great excuse to talk to people of both sexes. I agree, if you talk to any man who’s with a single woman he’s likely to be a bit edgy, and she’s likely to be suspicious. If he’s dating her and flirts with you he’s a creep anyway.

    Keep going! I look forward to reading more adventures.

    • Lucie Stevens May 13, 2010 at 7:35 pm #

      Hi beachblogger,

      There are men EVERYWHERE! You don’t have to restrict yourself to bars.
      I personally believe that technology makes it much harder to talk to men when they’re out and about. We all plug in our iPods and avoid interaction – not very helpful for singletons. That’s why it’s easier to approach men who’re already out doing something social, because they’ll be in ‘interaction’ mode.
      ManMap covers a whole range of public spaces, depending on the local geography, but the beach is definitely a good place to start.

  3. Louise @ ahhserenity May 15, 2010 at 8:59 am #

    Great concept Lucie. I hope ManMap is getting “out there”… you have some great suggestions and ideas!

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