Sluts and the city

28 Jun

Sydney slutFriday night, Forresters, two wedded wing-girls by my side looking forward to a night reminiscing about their single days. I’ve always liked this pub. Low key locals enjoy the cheap but delicious menu, relaxing after work in the courtyard out the front. The music isn’t too loud, the lighting isn’t too low. It’s the perfect place to unwind. Saturday night is function night, and the pub transforms from casual local to layer upon layer of birthday celebrations. And while the private bars are great for party-goers, they’re not so handy for girls looking to mingle. But this particular Friday is function-free, and with the licensee’s blessing I have the run of the place.

While it isn’t packed, I’m delighted by a table of ten or so guys in their 20s. Fun, friendly and good-humoured, it’s clear they’ve been mates for awhile. They’re more interested in enjoying the night than putting on a show of testosterone. One aspiring muso tells me he and his friends aren’t sure how to approach women, that they don’t know what part to play in today’s age of independent females. I wonder if we’re all taking it too seriously. Do we need to look to our American counterparts and adopt a more casual approach to dating? Perhaps what the straight Sydney Dating Culture’s missing is an element of fun and exploration.

Chatting to some other guys, I encounter a phenomenon which is growing in Sydney: men who only date Asian women. I’m always intrigued by people who set down such specific dating requirements. Most people’s ‘lists’ are about character traits and lifestyle. But these guys are very clear. They only date Asian women and they deliberately socialise in places that attract Asian women. I have to admire their commitment. They know what they want and they’ve worked out where to find it. Hopefully manMap will help the women out there who know what they want, but aren’t sure where to find it. In the meantime, if you’re an Asian woman looking for love, head to Star Bar. I guarantee you’ll find guys keen to meet you.

Walking back to the car after a respectable round of surveying, Wing-girl offers me this advice:

You’ve gotta fuck a few bad ones to find the good one…I don’t mean you have to be a slut.

A girl passing us cracks up. Without stopping she calls back,

Yes, you do.

I can’t believe this is true. I have many happily partnered, non-slut friends. But I’m curious to know what you think.

PS. BIG thank you to my two wedded wing-girls. Hope you had a fun night out and about!


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