Well ladies it seems men really are confused about how to approach women. One company is even running an Attraction Master Class in Sydney in November. Here’s a sneak peek at what they’ll cover:
The disco ball is an interesting choice of decor.
Snaps to the attendees for giving it a shot but I have to say, I didn’t hear one mention about being a decent human being to make yourself attractive. Wouldn’t being kind and sincere do more for most people than a pick up line?
In an effort to support all the ladies participating in Dry July, I’ll be exploring some non-bar options for meeting men over the next month. First stop: Tango classes. I’ll keep you posted!
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Or, build a meaningful, happy, successful life that someone else would want to be a part of. But that would be harder to sell on the motivational speaking circuit.
Exactly! Thanks for visiting James – always great to get a man’s POV. Feel free to pull me up on anything you think I’ve got completely wrong. Would love to hear your opinions.
Hi there Lucie,
I totally agree with your sentiments on ‘there not being a mention about being a decent human being to make yourself attractive’.
Zippo on being kind and sincere. In fact, I think that is what is wrong with the young men today. They are invariably insincere and out for what they can get. It seems most of them are looking to see how many notches they can rack up on their bedposts and they brag to their mates about it.
I was appalled on one day when I overheard three young men on a train (mind you, they didn’t really care who heard) talking about their sex lives. One of them boasted he bedded 11 women that week. I was shocked! His friends were, of course amazed and bewildered at the same time as to how he had the stamina. The bloke that was doing the sprouting – well, if I were a young woman, I wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole. His attitude, demeanor and disregard for women and sex, were huge turn offs from my point of view.
I count my lucky stars that I’m not a young woman in today’s society on the dating scene, with men around like that.
I noticed most of the presenters in the Attraction Master Class were American. Is this what the mysteries and pleasures of chemistry between two people has come down to? Macho marketing for castrated men? The big sell, women as commodities, rack up your bedposts?
Urgg! Forget dating! It’s beginning to sound like a marketing campaign that will probably make a lot of retailers and doctors rich as well as the blokes touting this hogwash.
I’d rather redecorate my house, build a garden, hold dinner parties with interesting people who’ve done interesting things with their lives, plan my next vacation, or take up Tango lessons than date today’s bloke!
Blokes of yesteryear were a different story. I think the Australian and American blokes leave a lot to be desired – they seem to be very basic – they just date women with the goal to bed them. I don’t think attending an Attraction Class is going to change that aspect.
They don’t seem to have the finesse of a European bloke -he woo’s a woman with his words, his attention, his thoughtful deeds and kind acts. European men know how to treat a woman. To a Euro man, courtship is an art form like the dance of the Tango. It’s the little intricacies in the steps of courtship that matter – not the end game! Courtship is not football!
Social Graces
Thanks for this great comment Social Graces.
It’s disheartening to hear stories about guys who are all about The Conquest. I have to say though, it’s not entirely their fault. That man had 11 women in one week alone (assuming he was being honest) who chose to enable his behaviour. They either were only up for some fun themselves or they didn’t have very high standards. Hopefully his friends have enough mettle to make their own decisions about how best to behave and not feel pressured to follow his ‘example’. Either way, it’s a shame you had to hear all about it. I hope it was a short trip!
A man said to me a last week, “It’s in a man’s nature to pursue, but it’s a woman’s right to choose.” I think that’s something valuable for single women to keep in mind, provided they don’t cut themselves off from opportunities.