8 Sep

A few weeks ago one of my gay guy-friends showed me an app on his iPhone called Grindr. This app is essentially a hook-up tool. It gives you profiles of all the Grindr-users in the area, including a photo and the distance between you and them. If you like the look of someone, you can send them a message to see if they’re interested in some fun.

As someone who hasn’t even experienced online dating yet, I found this idea delightfully outrageous. I couldn’t stop myself from discussing it with my wing-girls: how did they think the straight community would respond to an equivalent version? Would there be a market for it? Would it be packed with men and only a handful of ladies? What sort of safety issues would it raise (yes I know…I’m way too practical for my own good…)?

But then I started thinking that it might actually be really helpful for the people looking for a serious relationship online. I don’t think they’d find it useful directly, but they’d end up benefitting from it.

Imagine this: there’s a tool men and women can download for free and use from the comfort of their own phone, if they’re interested in some obligation-free fun. They no longer have to trawl through sleazy pick-up joints or filter through online profiles trying to find someone who doesn’t want a relationship.

No more lying or pretence; just an app that puts everyone on the same page.

This would potentially remove all these people from online dating sites, leaving behind the serious daters. And really, this would suit everyone: the casual fun-seekers can find each other easily and without apology. Those looking for love won’t be distracted by those looking just for sex. It’s a win-win outcome!

Of course the heart is a tricksy muscle and things aren’t always that simple, as another gay guy-pal discovered. His latest Grindr rendezvous left him with a lovely boyfriend. It’s early days yet, but for the moment, they’re both happy.

So what do you think ladies, would a straight version of Grindr help us find true love?


5 Responses to “iLove”

  1. Dyan Tai September 8, 2010 at 10:15 pm #

    Nope don’t think so. I think apps like that are meant for hook ups only.. lol but I’ve met some very genuine people online though so it definitely is an interesting question! best x

  2. Lucie Stevens September 9, 2010 at 9:57 pm #

    Thanks for visiting Dyan! Apparently a version for straight people is on its way, so we’ll be able to see if it filters all the ‘casual’ peeps away from online dating… 🙂

  3. beachblogger September 15, 2010 at 8:55 am #

    No, I think the quick hook up guys would just use both in an attempt to be doubly lucky! But full marks for your optimism … and for leaving no stone unturned in your research …

    • Lucie Stevens September 15, 2010 at 6:53 pm #

      One can only hope! Hey I met some really nice guys enjoying the sun at Bondi the other day. Maybe you should switch beaches every now and then…


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