Marlie, manMap and me

25 Jan

The Marlborough Hotel
145 King Street

Percentage of surveyed men who were single: 77%

Percentage of surveyed men in a relationship who have single friends: 100%

Meat-o-metre: A true meat-market. Slip on your sexiest outfit and have fun.  (weekend nights), A good venue for some light-hearted flirting over a glass of champagne.  (weekdays, afternoons)

Prime time: Friday and Saturday nights

Crowd: Blokey, live music lovers. Younger crowd upstairs. Student nights during the week.

Wing-girls: As many as you like. The space is big enough for all your friends.

Wears: Casual downstairs, sexy casual upstairs

Top tip: Chat to guys before the music starts so you’ve got a reason to dance with them during the set.

The Marly is layered with possibilities. At street level, the boys are ready to appreciate live music over a beer. It might be too loud for conversation but bonding over a favourite song is a great way to make new friends. Venture upstairs to the Level One cocktail bar for more sophistication. If someone takes your fancy, lead the way downstairs to The Cellar where the lighting’s low and the leather couches are perfect for getting better acquainted. Check the website for events like State of Origin screenings. They’re sure to bring in the boys!


Ages of single men:
<20: 10%
20-30: 50%
31-40: 40%
41+: 0%

Professions: Sports industry, media defence, engineering, finance, IT, community services

Interests and hobbies: Socialising; sport; drinking/sex/watching Foxtel

Clubs men belong to: various sports clubs

Values: Sport (47%); work (40%); family and friends (33%)

Cross Pollinate: The Rose of Australia (Erskineville); Clock Hotel; AB Hotel

Best ‘burbs: Kings Cross; Newtown


Single studs in the inner west

18 Jan

The Nag’s Head Hotel
162 St Johns Road

Percentage of surveyed men who were single: 73%

Percentage of surveyed men in a relationship who have single friends: 100%

Meat-o-metre: Connect with men over great conversations which will hopefully lead to dinner dates.

Prime time: Friday and Saturday nights

Crowd: Slightly older crowd of locals who enjoy live music, sport and catching up on neighbourhood news.

Wing-girls: Two or three of your liveliest friends. You’ll either be celebrating with a victorious team or lifting the mood. 

Wears: Give your heels the night off. Don’t overdue it or you’ll stand out in the wrong way.

Top tip: If it’s quiet, head around the corner to the Forest Lodge Hotel where people tend to move on to.

If Glebe was a share-house, this pub would be its lounge room. Local men gather, as they have for years, to relax with mates before a short stumble home. The large, island-style bar is the most popular place to sit, making it easy for you to slide in beside someone and start a conversation. Local sports teams, particularly football and hockey, regularly gather for post-game bonding. If you find some good sorts, suss out where the next game is so you can cheer on the team. Cover bands play on the weekends. Catch someone’s eye by enjoying yourself on the dance floor.


Ages of single men:
<20: 0%
20-30: 25%
31-40: 62%
41+: 13%

Professions: Sales and marketing; accounting; engineering; IT; science/research; sports

Interests and hobbies: Sport; socialising/drinking; dancing/women

Clubs: Cricket, hockey, cigar

Values: Family and friends (86%); social life/work/alcohol (25%); love/money/happiness/sport/education (13%)

Cross Pollinate: The Courthouse (Newtown); The Oaks Hotel; Forest Lodge Hotel

Best ‘burbs: Glebe; Balmain; Darlinghurst

Beyond the bar: City of festivals

11 Jan

Sydney must be keeping the banner industry in business. Every other week a new set of banners is installed along George Street, advertising the latest festival. From food and wine to art festivals, or celebrations of multiculturalism, coffee or music, there’s sure to be a festival (or two!) which interests you.

Festival events can be a great place to meet new men, as long as you’re strategic. Choose your festival wisely. Opera in the Domain, won’t attract as many single men in their early 30s as Sydney Festival’s Keystone Bar. Film festivals are fun, but you’ll have a better chance of chatting to men at Tropfest than you will inside a cinema.

It can be a daunting walking into a crowded festival, but there’s another way you can use events to meet men. Keep your eye on Sydney’s list of festivals. A few weeks before an event, think about people you know but don’t regularly socialise with. They might be friends of friends you’ve met a few times, or work acquaintances. Send out a group email, organising a meeting place and encouraging everyone to invite their friends. That way, you’ll meet new people through mutual friends. After a few hours of picnicking, the dynamic of the festival will take over and you might find yourself exchanging numbers with a lovely man sitting on the next picnic rug.    

Single men of the inner west

4 Jan

Plentiful of pubs and outdoor spaces, the inner west is a great place to search for men. More than half of the men surveyed in this area were single. That’s right ladies! Odds are that one in two men in an inner west pub will be single and more than happy to talk to you.

With its waterfront, multicultural communities and creative inclinations, the inner west offers a smorgasbord of delights for single women. On the doorstep of the city, many young professionals move to its suburbs to enjoy the convenience of a short bus ride to the CBD without sacrificing the perks of suburban life.

This is great news for single ladies. Suburbs which attract people to them because of location and lifestyle naturally create good local pubs. Regardless of your tastes, desires or hopes, you’ll find a scene that interests you. From the alternative and artistic streets of Newtown to the sporty and entrepreneurial haunts of Balmain, the inner west is so rich with diversity that different crowds can be found in neighbouring pubs. Friendly, laid-back and open-minded, this area will provide you with many delightful encounters. Here’s a good place to start…

The London Hotel
234 Darling Street

Percentage of surveyed men who were single: 52%

Percentage of surveyed men in a relationship who have single friends: 100%

Meat-o-metre: Connect with men over great conversations which will hopefully lead to dinner dates.

Prime time: Friday nights and Sunday afternoons

Crowd: Straight, sincere, down-to-earth locals who enjoy sport and love their pet dogs.

Wing-girls: No more than three so you can mingle on the balcony.

Wears: Smart casual. Avoid overdoing it.

Top tip: Make sure you don’t end up tucked away from the throng in one of the rooms behind the bar.

Looking for a typical Balmain guy? Make a beeline for The London. Devout patrons pay their respects most days after work and on Sundays it feels like every man in Balmain is there. The locals aren’t territorial though. They’ll welcome you as though they’ve invited you into their home. Because it’s such a friendly pub, it’s a great place to start your manhunt, particularly if you’re shy. The lack of loud music makes chatting easy and the three-sided bar is perfect for smiling at someone on other side of the room. With a mix of ages, interests and professions, there’s something for every girl.


Ages of single men:
<20: 10%
20-30: 50%
31-40: 20%
41+: 20%

Professions: Trade, property, hospitality, self employed, advertising, sales, IT, finance.

Interests and hobbies:  Sport; socialising/women; drinking/time with dog

Clubs men belong to: football (Tigers), sailing, motorcycling

Values: Family and friends (86%); work (29%); happiness/beer/sex/pet dog (14%)

Cross Pollinate: The Welcome Hotel

Best ‘burbs: Balmain

Happy 2012 singletons!

28 Dec

Hello lovely readers,

Well it’s been an age and a bit since I last posted, which is very negligent but I hope you’ll forgive me when you hear why. The end of 2011 turned out to be a wonderful succession of good news for me. After I received my ASA mentorship, my novel and I were awarded a fellowship from the NSW Writers’ Centre. And after that I was offered a job at the Australian Society of Authors. All these events made me realise that it’s time to put manMap aside and focus of finishing my novel, which is my true (writing) love.

manMap has been a fantastic experience and although it’s ending prematurely, I don’t regret any of the nights I traipsed through Sydney alone, in search of single men. I feel more confident talking to strangers and I visited places I’d never ventured before. Over the course of my 623 interviews, I went to 55 different pubs, bars and public spaces and of course, entered the Land of Blogging. I met some great people and only had a handful of bad experiences, which goes to show that at the end of the day, we’re human beings and most of us are willing to help someone else out.

To give manMap the ending I feel it deserves, I’ve decided I’d post the sections of my manMap guidebook which I’d already written, in the hope that you’d find it useful. I’ll post once a week until I run out of manuscript. Apologies for any double-ups that occur because I’ve posted info as I interviewed over the past eighteen months.

Thank you so much for your support, comments, emails and well-wishes. I hope 2012 is a year filled with all the things you’ve been hoping for.

All the best,

A different kind of love

6 Sep

Dear lovely readers,

Well, what can I say, I’ve been a BAD blogger the past week: failing to post, then promising to post, then not posting. I apologise. I hope the guys out there don’t think this is a reflection on how I’d behave in The Land of Dating…

The reason I’ve been so unreliable is because last week I had some ENORMOUS news, which occupied most of my head space and a large chunk of my time. You see, while manMap is a project that I love and have been working on for some time, I have a confession to make: manMap is not my only love.

For what feels like about a lifetime, I have been working on another writing project, a novel. manMap pushed my novel to the sidelines, demanding my time for surveying and blogging and the making of enormous spreadsheets. Like an attention-seeking child, it occupied most of my non-working time while my poor little novel waited in the corner for the moment it could spring back into my arms. Last Monday, this moment came.

As previously blogged, I’ve been busy chores with a few applications. One of these was the Australian Society of Authors mentorship program, where 15 emerging writers each get adopted by a published author to workshop their writing. On Monday, I found out that I was one of the lucky ones to be awarded a mentorship.

I’m beyond thrilled about being one of the chosen few, but this means I have Much Work To Do. I really want to make the most of this experience, so I need to spend the next month or so spending some quality time with my novel, so she’s ready to be ripped apart and analysed by my mentor.

So I hope you will forgive me, lovely readers, if I hang up my blogging and mapping hats for a space. Big apologies particularly to my new subscribers. I feel like you’ve been drawn in, only to be dumped. I hope you’ll keep reading in October, even if it’s quiet in September.

Keep an eye on the manMap facebook page so you know when I’m blogging again. I’ll drop by in an non-official capacity now and then. Until next time, I’d like to share with you a funny story.

A single guy-friend of a wing-girl was out with a mate the weekend before last. His quirky sense of humour inspired him to write this:

manMap embraces coasters

on a coaster and stick it on the table in front of him. Sure enough, it caught the attention of a few girls, who he invited to join him and his friend at their table. He hit it off with one of them and ended up going on a date with her on Saturday night (not sure how the date went, but snaps to him for his novel approach to dating). There you have it ladies: lateral dating strategies at work!

Happy Spring to you all and be sure to drop me a line if you have any adventures of your own,

News flash!

31 Aug

Hi lovely readers,

Earlier this week I had some BIG and EXCITING news which has swallowed up all my blogging time I’m afraid. Check in over the weekend for my explanations and apologies…

Happy Spring everyone!

Sorry for standing you up…

25 Aug

Hi lovely readers,

Sorry for standing you up last night without so much as a facebook update to explain my absence. I’m still in hardcore application mode, but this will come to an end on Sunday afternoon with a bit of luck, and I’ll be back on the mapping trail next week.

In the meantime, I came across something interesting on the 7pm Project. A rural community in Victoria called Harrow has been actively addressing their woman drought since 2003, when they hosted their first Beaut Blokes weekend. Eighty city ladies were invited to spend the weekend in Harrow to meet rural blokes who had to meet the following requirements:

A bloke must be single, love his Mum, be kind to his sister and live in rural Australia.

Beaut Blokes has seen twelves marriages, a number of engagements and numerous friendships, so maybe if you’re keen to meet a farmer without going on national television, you should check out their website. If not, I’ll be back next week with hints of where you can find men in Sydney.

A big hello and thank you to my new subscribers. Seeing a notification in my inbox telling me I have a new subscriber always makes my day. 🙂

Strike a pose…

17 Aug

Just a quicky this week lovely readers, as I’m in hard-core application mode. I am curious for your opinion on something  though…

One of my lovely wing-girls is dabbling in online dating. This is a profile pic she stumbled on:

Wing-girl wondered if the photo was meant to be ironic. I figured the only way we’d find out is if she went on a date with him. If this man in the mud is striking an ironic pose, Wing-girl could very well end up on the most hilarious date of her life. What’s your opinion?

A single woman’s open letter to Dymocks, George Street

10 Aug

Dearest Dymocks,

As I’m sure you’re aware from my Booklover’s card, I’m a big fan. I love wandering through your shelves, rearranging them so friends’ books are cover-out not spine-out, looking for nerdy guys clutching copies of EM Forster’s work and then choosing something new to take home with me (typically a book, not a guy…). But you have betrayed me. And I wonder how, after all these years of devotion, you could be so cruel. And not only to me, but to single women all over Australia.

You see Dymocks, I’m hoping one day my name will appear on one of your shelves (cover-out of course). As part of this process, I had to review books that publishers will see as competition (although I know you know, Dymocks, that none of your books are anything like mine…). This meant I had to spend a few hours in part of you that I rarely if ever visit, that I avoid at all costs: the self-help section.

I don’t object to self-help in theory. It’s just that I remember too well the episode of Sex and the City, where Charlotte discovers the lack of humiliation online book-shopping offers. If this self required help, she would turn to Booktopia for privacy and free shipping. But the philosophy of manMap is the same when it comes to men and books: online research just isn’t as good as research done in person.

And so it was that I set aside a few hours on a Saturday to carefully examine the advice your shelves offered on the topic of Being Single and Wanting to not Be Single. With great trepidation I noticed that your shelves were arranged so almost everyone alighting your escalator would see me in the self-help section, notebook in hand as I scrutinised your current listings. Would it not be kinder to arrange your shelves at an angle, so men on the way to the history section wouldn’t spy the woman nervously leafing through Textbook Romance and Finding Your Soulmate?  

This was not the extent of your treachery. Coming to the end of your self-help shelves I discovered, with an intense feeling of betrayal, that you had positioned the Wedding Book section next to the Single Women’s section. Why would you do this? Why would you rub salt into the wounded heart that loves you?

And so Dymocks, I would like to suggest a change. You are in a position to help singletons all over the country for very little effort or cost. Please move your ghastly wedding books far far far away from the books for single women and replace them with the Sports section, which is always brimming with men. This simple act could make you the Choreographer of Love, something which will surely give you Great Joy and Satisfaction. If you cannot oblige for reasons this Single Woman can’t imagine, then at least consider switching Wedding Books for Cook Books. That way the forlorn singleton can be consoled with fantasies of Manu or Curtis Stone stirring a pot on her hot-plate. Or at the very least, 101 Ways to Cook with Chocolate might help her deal with The Science of Single.

Yours ever hopeful,
Lucie Stevens.